Plutarch, De liberis educandis
Frank Cole Babbitt, Ed.

So far I have felt no doubt or even hesitation in saying what I have said about the decorous conduct and modest behaviour of the young ; but in regard to the topic now to be introduced I am of two opinions and two minds, and I incline now [p. 55] this way, now that, as though on a balance, being unable to settle down on either side ; and a feeling of great reluctance possesses me, whether to introduce or to avoid the subject. Still I must venture to speak of it. What is it then ? It is the question whether boys' admirers are to be permitted to associate with them and pass their time with them, or whether, on the contrary, they should be kept away and driven off from association with the youth. For when I have regard to those uncompromising fathers, harsh and surly in their manner, who think the society of admirers an intolerable outrage to their sons, I feel cautious about standing as its sponsor and advocate. But again, when I think of Socrates, Plato, Xenophon, Aeschines, Cebes, and that whole band of men who sanctioned affection between men, and thus guided the youth onward to learning, leadership, and virtuous conduct, I am of a different mind again, and am inclined to emulate their example. Euripides ¹ gives testimony in their favour when he says : Among mankind another love exists, That of an upright, chaste, and noble soul. Nor may we omit the remark of Plato ² wherein jest and seriousness are combined. For he says that those who have acquitted themselves nobly ought to have the right to kiss any fair one they please. Now we ought indeed to drive away those whose desire is for mere outward beauty, but to admit without reserve those who are lovers of the soul. And while the sort of love prevailing at Thebes and in Elis is to be avoided, as well as the so-called [p. 57] kidnapping in Crete, that which is found at Athens and in Lacedaemon is to be emulated.